Becky Talks Justice

Someone recently asked me what it’s like to advocate for justice day in and day out. If you’ve never thought about my job in that way, let me explain. 

At Stand Up Eight, we advocate on our adopted children’s behalf to help parents understand how each child’s trauma has affected her. The ultimate goal is to help each child heal from the hurt she experienced (whether intentional or by mistake) from her biological family. 

If our work helps families become more loving and whole, then in part, we help to right the original wrong that took place.

The answer to the question of what it’s like to do this kind of work day in and day out is not simple. Sometimes it’s rewarding, sometimes it’s exhausting, sometimes it’s frustrating, sometimes it’s fulfilling, and everything in between. 

But most of all, I do this important work because I have conviction all the way down to my core that it is necessary. Each child deserves to experience what it feels like to be known and loved unconditionally, and, as my partner in crime Jen Reichert always says, “Short of selling my soul to the devil, I’ll do whatever it takes to make that happen.” 

On the worst days, justice doesn’t feel like justice, but rather monotony. It’s easy to get distracted by tough cases and discouraged when families are having a hard time; any social worker will tell you that.

But the best days are the ones when breakthroughs happen and relationships heal. 

Righting wrongs and healing trauma aren’t for the faint of heart, but if I remember that I AM fighting for justice, then I approach my job with passion. 

Because every kid is worth fighting for.

Becky Wickes